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What is one thing that you consider to be one of the top barriers that is keeping you from achieving personal success?

Well, in this specific article, IT IS NOT YOU! It’s other people; more specifically, all of the negative people that YOU CHOSE to surround yourself with!

Did you know that YOU are the one who has the final decision to decide whether or not to LET these people affect you or not? Really, it is YOUR CHOICE! And yes, I know, sometimes it can feel as though you are being surrounded like a tidal wave of resistance. So… What do you do?

One thing that we know is that there is a lot of negativity in this world; we see it daily in the media, on the internet and in our personal lives. But why is it that so many people always seem to fear the worst in every situation, even though that thinking is simply not reality?

Pessimism and perpetual worrying about what others are thinking or believing about you and your activities on a constant basis will achieve nothing and can and will ultimately be extremely damaging.

We know that the basic Laws of Attraction state that we become magnets for whatever we focus our thoughts or attentions on - BOTH DESIRED AND THE UN-DESIRED! In other words, what you think about, dream about and worry about…YOU BECOME!

Your personal thoughts and actions truly CREATE your own personal reality. For example, right now, you may be focusing you attention on all of the NEGATIVE EVENTS in your life that simply are not working, both in your personal and financial life.

But, by dwelling on what isn’t working for you or IS NOT happening in your life, you remain “STUCK”, thus, attracting MORE OF THE EXACT SAME THINGS THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO AVOID!

Did you know that Negative people tend to attract and give out negative or LIKE ENERGY? And simply by following the principles of the Law of Attraction, these same people that you are being attracted to are most likely the same people that are continually stuck in their own mediocrity, misfortune and dead end lives. Powerful Huh?

Now, strangers or casual acquaintances with poison and venom in their words are easy to deflect, BUT WHAT HAPPENS IF YOUR SPOUSE, PARTNER, or CLOSE FRIEND is continually carrying around the negative energy that I am speaking of; how can you deal with someone who continually focuses their attention on being negative?

Will their doom and gloom eventually consume you? Or can you, through your actions and words, transfer your positive energy to them and assist them in parting their personal grey clouds that surround them and simply show them how they PERSONALLY can create the sunshine in their lives that they so deserve?

First of all, I want you to remember that YOU ALWAYS have a choice whether or not to participate. It takes two to argue or to create conflict, and you can always choose what you bring into YOUR life, YOUR space and what YOU choose to talk about.

For instance, if your partner or friend is always complaining again about what’s wrong with their lives, you can either buy into their bleakness and turn the whole conversation into a groan fest, or you can take the conversation to a higher level by vibrating at a different frequency.

Try to get them to vibrate along with your brighter, more optimistic tone.

Here is an idea….Try asking yourself and the perpetual negative person this question “So what do you want?”

Now, realize that complainers are not used to answering this kind of question, this is the type of question that forces them to CREATE CHANGE in their own personal lives and to become accountable for the situation that they are living in day to day. Simply put; it makes them uncomfortable.

But keep pressing forward with this line of questioning and you’ll soon hear their words and tones change. They’ll pick up your vibrational output and start to think of all of the potential solutions rather than all of their problems. They will start to focus on their blessings rather than the hardships.

The bottom line is DO NOT ALLOW YOUR LOVED ONES TO GET YOU DOWN! Instead, pick them up, dust them off and walk forward with them arm in are as you both CREATE and LOOK FORWARD to a brighter future together.

To Your Continued Success,

Robert R. Paisola
CEO, Western Capital Financial
www.RobertPaisola.com

Robert R. Paisola is driven by a passion for people–motivating them to reach for the highest standards of success. As founder and president of many International Corporations, Robert trains sales and marketing professionals who want to strive to get to the top…and stay there.

His innovative, no-nonsense approach is based on applying what he has observed in his fifteen-plus years in sales, motivational speaking and debt collection training, thus revealing the common business habits of the top 20% of
sales performers in all organizations.

Robert’s approach works…that’s why New York-based Success Magazine has rated Robert Paisola as one of the top-five most effective sales-training professional in the market today.

Routinely Distinguished by The National Speakers Forum, Robert is also a regular contributor to Business Week Magazine, CNN, CNNFN, XM Satellite Radio, The Wall Street Journal, Telemundo International, National Public Radio and many other
organizations.

For more information on Robert’s training programs, contact Robert at Western Capital at 877-517-9555

Are you tired of feeling isolated, but don’t know how to reach out and talk to people? Would you like to go out on dates but are too shy to meet someone? Many people find themselves in this predicament. They would like to have a relationship, but they have trouble starting conversations and being friendly.

I have a client who is a 39-year-old never-married man who would like to meet someone to date. He’s nice-looking, has a promising career, and is a sweet guy. He’s also shy. He finds himself immobilized when he is in a group of people he doesn’t know. He has a routine of work, gym, grocery store, TV, and working on his car. He visits his parents once a week, and also goes to business conferences, but when it comes to social events where he might meet someone, he has to push himself hard in order to get out and talk to people.

My client told me he looks for something noticeable about a person he’d like to know, that he can comment on when he does make it out in public. He needs conversation starters. Knowing that props and unusual items help a shy guy or gal start talking, let’s explore some possibilities:

* Carry your favorite book.

Carry your book or have it peeking out of your carry-all. You might meet someone who has read it; someone who has heard about it and wants to read it; or someone who asks you about it and wants to know more. Having a book or magazine can also act as a sorting tool. Your choice of subject matter will either appeal to someone or it won’t, and can be an early indicator of interests and compatibility.

* Think about your clothing.

If you are in a place where the dress is casual, a phrase printed on your shirt might attract responses from others. but think carefully about why you say; if it is too sarcastic or mean-spirited, you will set a tone for the conversation that you may regret. Wearing something unusual, as long as you don’t feel weird in it, will also open doors to talking to others.

* Consider wearing a hat.

You can also have a slogan or catchy phrase printed on it. Hats elicit comments, but don’t wear one if you don’t look good in it. It’s important to know what suits you and what doesn’t. Ask your best friend or someone who will tell you the truth. But hats often draw attention and conversation to you.

* Carry some props that indicate your work or hobby.

If you are carrying an item that is related to your field of study, work, or one of your interests, you have just given others an avenue to follow to a conversation. Your butterfly net, field binoculars, camera equipment, skis, snowboard, paint set, carpentry tools, needle work, or fishing pole are all worthy of attention and questions. If you are traveling somewhere and walking through a terminal carrying your tennis racket, musical instrument, bird cage, or scuba gear, notice if people are looking at you as though they would like to make comments. (True, the bird cage may look a little strange…but it will attract conversations.) People will probably want to know where you are going and what you are doing. You may find it easier to talk to strangers when you are both focused on the prop.

Some of the above ideas also can give you cues and clues to watch for in others, so you can have an opener. And if you cannot think of an appropriate prop, then go to the mall and learn to talk to strangers. I suggest that you find an older person, the same sex as you. Go in a department store, or hardware store, and look for people who are browsing. Get near them and ask a question, such as, “Do you know anything about these towels? Have you ever used these before?” If the person is not friendly, move on to someone else. But do not give up until you have practiced talking over and over. Learning to start conversations may be hard, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. You can move from “shy and tongue-tied” to “shy but full of try.” Everyone loves people who try.

Visit http://www.tonjaweimer.com for more tips and skills on singles, relationships, love, and dating. You can also subscribe to our F’ree Savvy Dating Newsletter from master single’s coach, life coach, and syndicated columnist, Tonja Weimer.

Distance learning students seem to enjoy the best of everything. They get their education without actually needing to attend classes, and at the same time are able to keep their jobs and get a paycheck. In fact, this is one of the more prominent distance learning benefits that attract many students to make this their choice of education. In addition to that, distance learning students also gain the advantage of flexibility where they are able to study at their own pace without adhering to class schedules.

However, amidst these perks, distance learning requires a lot of discipline and motivation from students. When we are juggling between a job and studies, it is very easy to lose track of our priorities and fail to keep up to mark. Moreover, distance learning students do not have the advantage of getting their learning drive renewed whenever they interact with lecturers or peers in classes.

Therefore, how can distance learning students then overcome this challenge? The first thing that a student must have is good time management. Everyone has 24 hours and it is up to us to utilize our time in the best way possible. Set up a daily or weekly plan for yourself and ensure that you set aside time for your studies daily. If you have a family, let them know about your schedule so that they know when you should not be disturbed. Divide your time appropriately between your work, your family and your studies. Of course, discipline is important here as any schedule will not do any good if it is not followed.

Getting yourself motivated is also essential towards distance learning success. One of the ways to do this is to stay in contact with your classmates. With the internet today, it is often easy to stay in touch through email, instant messenger as well as internet phone. Discussing projects or assignments with your teammates will help you stay on track and keeps you and your teammates accountable for one another.

Setting goals and rewarding yourself when you attain them are great self-motivating habits. Start by drawing a chart on the milestones that you need to reach in order to complete your course. Strike out each goal as you complete them and reward yourself accordingly. There is a certain satisfaction whenever we see ourselves progressing and this becomes a motivating force for us to face the next hurdle.

Additionally, it is ever essential for a distance learning student to set up a quiet place for study away from home life distractions, such as the television, phone calls or other family members. Organize an off-limits study area or lock yourself in a quiet room to ensure optimum focus. Apart from that, a good chair, a strong table and adequate space are also essential elements in creating a conducive environment.

Finally, although distance learning is a great and effective learning concept, much of its effectiveness is dependent on the habits and determination of the individual. The full advantages of distance learning can only be gained through hard work, discipline and determination for success.

Rose Musyoka is the editor of http://www.distance-learning-college-guide.com where you find answers, information and advice on distance learning colleges, accredited online degrees and online courses. See more related information on distance learning colleges and distance learning benefits.

The MPC is responsible for setting interest rates and trying to meet the govts target of CPI =2% +/- 1. As a secondary objective they also need to consider the impact of interest rates on the wider economy, notably output and unemployment.

Monetary policy is also pre emptive, this means they try to reduce inflationary pressures before they occur. Therefore the MPC look at a variety of economic indicators to be able to judge future inflation trends. In particular they look at the amount of spare capacity in the economy and the rate of growth compared to the Long Run trend rate. If inflationary pressures are increasing the bank will raise interest rates to reduce the growth of consumer spending and AD. The UK economy is very sensitive to interest rate changes this is because of high levels of debt, both mortgage and credit card debt. Therefore a moderate 0.5% increase in interest rates can have a significant effect in reducing demand.

Since the Bank of England was made independent in 1997 they have had full control of monetary policy and have been able to successfully keep inflation within the govts target. It appears the UK economy has been able to avoid the boom and bust economic cycles that characterized the post war period. By having an inflation target the MPC have been able to maintain a discipline of avoiding a booming economy.

In addition because the Bank of England is independent from political pressures they have generated and confidence in their low inflationary credentials. Therefore this has helped reduce inflationary expectations. This is very beneficial for reducing wage inflation and other cost push factors.

However although the Bank of England has played an important in reducing inflation, there are arguably other factors that are also very significant.
Firstly Supply side policies such as privatisation and deregulation of markets have helped increased productivity and reduce inflation. Secondly global inflation has remained low due to a combination of factors but mainly due to technological improvements. It is worth noting that in the past 18 months there has been significant rises in oil prices and other commodities. If these continue it is likely to cause inflationary pressures within the UK which will make the job of the MPC more difficult.

Conclusion.

The MPC has been much more successful than previous inflation strategies. They have helped to break the cycle of boom and bust in the UK economy and reduced inflation expectations. However they have been helped by benign world inflation. This may change in the coming months.

Richard is an economics teacher in Oxford and is a member of the Sri Chinmoy Centre Richard edits a site on spiritual Poets and the poetry of Sri Chinmoy

Although the internet is flooded with thousands of matchmaking sites, few people realize why this approach to finding their mate can lead to matchmaking hell.

False Forecasts

The typical methods for finding a mate are based on personality tests, psychological profiles, and our own evaluation of a potential partner.

Most of the matchmaking techniques used on these sites are doomed to failure because the harmonious relationship forecast turns out to be false. For instance, consider those sites that claim their methods are scientific and say this validates their results. But the current divorce rate undermines any belief that such methods work.

Most people tend to repeat the same mistakes and issues in their second marriage. Others say that they got a lot smarter by the third marriage. But that is an awful waste of life, pain, and suffering. When you trust those matchmakers on the dating sites or even your own intuition, you are very likely to fail.

Why?

The obvious conclusion is that most people don’t have enough tools for finding out what another person is really like inside. If this is your situation, then I can assure you that there are real answers. Simply turn to the heavens.

Did you know that the signs of the zodiac reveal “human attitudes” and that the planets reveal “personal desires?” If you know how these energies function in your potential mate and can determine how they relate to your own energies, you will have irrefutable evidence of what a person is like on the inside. You will then be able to discover whether you can live in harmony or not. What could be more validating?

If your superstitions or beliefs have prevented you from exploring what is really available to you in the heavens, maybe it’s time to take another look. If you would like to learn more about this kind of matchmaking check this out.

If you are seriously looking for a lasting relationship and want to avoid the guess-matchmaking madness that is infesting the internet, explore the signs and planets within you and your potential partner. This could lead you to matchmaking heaven.

© 2005 Randall Curtis

Bond together the two of everybody’s uppermost quests and you’ve got is a mania titled a sportsbook wagers web property. Seriously, what could be more inventive… If you envision a bunch of sports aficionados cheering any given home team, and almost regularly lays are assured to be calculated tied in to the noise. Intent to participate in of the pleasure, onlookers will habitually aspire to figure who will win in the coming competition. All of this boils down to a chummy little competition named sportsbook wagers web property.

Why wait? Top on line sports wagering games are happening right now, online!

In order to wager, you should go to a sportsbook wagers web property, i.e. a setup that tenders sportsbook wagers web property. In America, you will find four states where people can go for sportsbook wagers in a legitimate manner, but if legality is no concern, you may try it wherever provided you can pin down a bookie *and* you happen to be of legal age. Amongst the games you’ll be able to wager on are professional plus, in addition, college class basketball & football, professional hockey and baseball, plus, in addition, betting on both horse and dog racing. You may wager on the global results of a game or fight, at which point any given contestant will be vanquished, and even whether a coin toss in a game or fight comes down heads or tails.

The sportsbook company will depend on statistics make it easier for you choose which team you suppose will win. First, there’s the spread, i.e. advantage in points pertaining to the disadvantaged contestant assumed to take a licking by x number points. This describes the sportsbook provider’s proven practice of making fair antes possible for a Sportsbook. To take an example you might bet on a lineup assumed to take a licking and and regardless win that bet provided the contestant goes under by x number of points.

You’ll get so many varying manners of bets– straight, parlays, teaser wagers and, further, over/unders, the straight bets, where you’ll simply pick the contestant you feel will prevail or go down being the best known in sportsbook wagers.

So why not have a bash at it and have a lot of fun while you’re at it… Simply see to it that you won’t get too enthusiastic and fritter your total pension plan on a whim! After all, you’ll be sure to catch yourself being sorry all life long!

Introduction

Success - we all read about it, hear it on the news, and label some individuals as “successful.” In this society, a person is believed to be successful, just by measuring the amount of money a person earns, the size and location of his/her house and the vehicles they drive. You are successful if…

…you vacation in a far-off land, you are successful.

…you wear designer clothes and dine or entertain at renowned restaurants you are successful.

There are many definitions of success, almost as many as there are individuals. Your idea of success may not be mine and vice versa. I may not be concerned with what I drive and do not base this on success. You, however, might take great care in who shops at what store in order to attain the label of success. Whatever your criteria is for placing someone, including yourself, on a preferred list of successful individuals, is based in part on what is of value to you. If you value home location, then successful people live in certain areas. There are those that feel that opulent spending signifies status in the honor rolls of life. Who is correct and what assumption is accurate?

None of them are and yet they all are. No matter what you base the concept of successful living on, only the individual involved can attest to the fact that they feel successful. There is an old saying that “only true success will lull you to sleep at night.” True success is basically living up to your potential and fulfilling life goals and expectations that you have set for yourself. You work hard to make your dreams come true; your family is well taken care of so you can rest at night. Yet, there are those who do not have financial comfort, yet make do with what they have and share their love and attributes with their family and friends. Both individuals are successful. They have done what is expected of them and beyond.

Understanding Success

Success is one of those words that we all understand, or at first glance, we think we do. We hear that someone is a big success, and we nod in agreement and apparent understanding. But what is success? Webster defines success as reaching a conclusion, usually a fortunate one. OK, what is fortunate? Most of us correlate success with money. If someone has a lot of money we tend to think of him or her as successful. But if you’ve been around a few years you know that money doesn’t buy happiness. Money can make one’s life easier and that can eliminate many obstacles to happiness, but money itself brings little or no inherent joy. And joy is the trademark of success.

I propose that success is achieving, in this lifetime, whatever you want to, to make you happy. Therefore, success is very personal and completely individual. Furthermore, success does not come as a result of money, but money may come as a result of success. Success is a feeling. Success is a state of being in which we feel a sense of joy, fulfillment, and achievement.

Forget what the media proclaims. Ignore what friends and family consider a success. Focus instead on what success means to you. Are you successful right now? If you feel good about the person you are being, then you are successful. If you feel joy when you are being who you are, if you feel fulfillment when you are doing what you do, this is your soul shouting encouragement at being the real you. This is success.

Success is About Self-Believe

There are no set steps you must take to reach success. There are just basic issues to overcome and control. These are few and simple. You must believe in what you do, be willing to share your knowledge and expertise with others, and acknowledge that others have the same rights to success as you do.

- If you can laugh at your own mistakes, but not at those of others, and if you fail at anything, but can find the strength to get back up, then you are on the road to success.

- If an elderly person holds your respect, and a child makes you believe in life itself, then you are successful.

- If you shake the hand of an individual down on his luck as warmly as you do that of a statesman, then you are successful.

It is all in where your heart is and if you have the courage to follow it. You don’t have to be exceptionally intelligent, nor endowed with great beauty or strength; you just have to be comfortable in being you.

Success is in essence immeasurable. Yet, others lay a yardstick to it day after day. Your life will decide your success, and your own peace of mind will insure it. So, let each day be a step toward hearing “A Job Well Done” when all the cards are on the table, and there is no more playing time. Success - my toast to you!

Identifying the real Successful People

Real successful people appear relaxed and have a few points in common:

- They have the sound of success. It is not in their “actual” words, but the way they talk and react.

- They are not afraid of the type of impression they are portraying, because they are real.

- They are not, “putting on an act”, they are just being themselves. They shake your hand confidently, and sincerely.

- They walk with an air of confidence that only comes naturally when you are happy and content on the inside as well as out.

- They have accomplished what they have set out to do, and they have the right to be proud and happy.

Not all successful people will make headline news and be interviewed by major television stations and talk-show hosts. They don’t need this type of exposure to enjoy what they have achieved. All truly successful people are willing to share their insight and knowledge so that others may reach their goals and their pinnacles of ability.

Successful people can find joy in simple things and the sound of their laughter is not a mimicking type of facade, but a down-to-earth real-time sound that tells everyone around them that life is good and enjoyable. Successful individuals take their goals and their strengths and weaknesses very seriously. They can, however, laugh at themselves, but they will never cross the line to ridicule or belittle another.

They are true giants in whatever they pursue and undertake. These people face problems and look for solutions. There is no mountain that they feel cannot be ventured over and each morning brings fresh, new opportunities.

To a successful person, others are their equals, never beneath them. They may be giants of industry or the arts, but they truly listen and lift up everyone around them. Successful people are men and women in every walk of life, different ages, nationalities, and color. They are famous or live just next door. These giants of success are not afraid to lift everyone on their shoulders, so that they can see even further.

A child is a vision and an older individual is a beacon of hope. Nature represents balance and the world is an arena of growth and true prosperity. Money, fame, and fortune are tangible and can disappear overnight. Family, friends, and values last a lifetime and are worth their weight in gold. Time spent in truly listening to someone else is quality time and sometimes a simple walk down a woodland path with a friend is a chance to renew strength and composure. Winning an argument to them does not as important as understand the views of another.

Conclusion

Successful people are everywhere. They are in the newspapers, on television programs, and are being interviewed and their words written down by reporters for all kinds of magazines and journals.

You are successful if you feel successful in the small achievements as well as the larger ones. You are successful if you feel you have all that you need, but you know the difference between want and need. You can share what you have and find that it multiplies in return.

You all are successful, in your own way; just you need to realize it from within. This is my gift to all of you, on the occasion of Christmas and New Year.

Have a great time and enjoy your life with your near and dear ones.

With Lots of Love,

Composed By: Sanjeev Sharma
Pune-India
Mobile: +91-9890788259
Blog: http://sanjeevhimachali.blogspot.com/

Belief is the base where the whole of humanity stands upon. Belief is the breath of every human being though he is unaware of it. Humanity believes many materialistic things in the world which they never see with their eyes, never hear with their ears. But when it comes to spiritual matters like God, man spontaneously questions God’s existence. Man’s faith in the invisible God should flow like blood all over the limbs of the body. We should remember that our existence is only due to His existence.

‘How do we believe in God who is invisible?’ Such question is often pondered by some people. In reality we believe in many scientists’ discoveries which we only heard but never saw in reality. But when it comes to God, people ask for proofs. We do not see air but we feel it. Similarly we might not see God with the naked eyes but we feel him at heart. Just because one is unable to see air or God, can he deny their existence?

The Sun, Stars, Moon, Earth, Water, Sky and the nature’s wonders which cannot be created by Man are all proofs of God’s existence. We can feel God when we are with the nature. Man might have created so many things on the earth but who created that man? God created man and his mysterious brain which helped man in his discovery.

Human being is able to achieve the impossible by his intelligence, knowledge and skill. This doesn’t mean he is greater than God because that great human being is also helpless in some aspects. Is that being aware that there is an invisible thread which helps in the functioning of all parts? Is he breathing every breath by his will? Can he die at any moment he wants or can he live for more years when the hour of death approaches him? Is man making any effort to make his heart beat in a regular manner? Who is the guiding principle behind all these? It is God who resides in the heart of man.

Man cannot control nature. Can he control sun rise, sunset, rotation and revolution of the earth? Being human, if scientists can create water, what is the greatness of God in creating water, so think many people. Can scientists create water sufficient for the whole world by their experiments? Can they create oceans with hydrogen and oxygen? Imitation is human, creation is divine. Man uses mind. He is forgetful; God uses heart. He is forgiveness.

Love doesn’t live together with ego and pomp. It is very easy to please God. You need not boast of your finances or intelligence; you need not utter the toughest language or greatest poetry on the earth to please him. Simple or no language is sufficient to pray. Empty hands and a heavy heart are all that God needs to fulfill your greatest wishes. Then all the troubles will be vanished and you will see the Sun of happiness shine on your heart. Chanting the name of God acts like anesthesia; though you are in the whirlpool of troubles, you will cross it with no trace of pain with His name on your lips. Never challenge God. Be humble, yearn for his love, strive for his grace, and let your eyes and heart be filled with true love for Him. There will be no miracle left to be taken place in your world of God. For this, blind ‘Faith’ is the first step on the ladder of Realization to reach your final destination called ‘God.’ Take one step towards God and he will take thousand steps towards you. God is a blend of mother, father, friend, guide and philosopher. This single word ‘God’ seems so small but it has the whole of universe in it.

Spirituality is an easy path to reach God. Prayer without faith is like an artificial flower without fragrance. No good cause can dare to invite obstacles if only you have blind faith in God. One who has time for God in this busy mechanical world is the true son of God. Let your faith in God be blind and your heart be open. Surrender to God from below; God will render his blessings from above.

God is omnipresent; man’s lack of faith prevents him from seeing God. God’s existence cannot be denied because of his invisibility. Can we deny the existence of the Sun because of the blockage of the clouds? When we wait with patience until the clouds are dispelled by a strong wind, we can witness the sun. Similarly, with the blowing of the wind of Faith, the cloud of doubt gets shattered and God becomes visible.

“Patience, love or trust are essential to feel the Lord.” - Sharmila Sanka

During the past two decades, all forms of child abuse, including sexual abuse and incest, have received wide recognition. As a result, many women who were sexually abused as a child has stepped forward to express their abuse experiences; thereby breaking the “conspiracy of silence.” Incest is no longer in the closet, the family secrets, or the horror story that happened to someone else is now aired in the public arena.

It is conservative estimated that 40 percent of American women and 20 percent of men have experienced some form of childhood sexual trauma. Others studies suggested that as many as 180,000 women per million in the United States may have been incestuously abused before the age of 18; and as many as 45,000 per million may have been incestuously exploited by their own fathers. as survivors continue to come forward and disclose their incestuous experiences, these statistics, especially those for men, will increase steadily.

Incest and child sexual abuse has become so widespread that many mental health professionals are assessing it as a major social problem. The importance of real trauma to the development of psychopathology is increasingly recognized. The most damaging of actual trauma is incest; the sexual exploitation of a child by a family member who stands in a parental role, or in a relationship invested with significant intimacy and authority.

Childhood sexual abuse refers to any sexual activities between an adult and a child; it does not matter whether the activity involves actual contact or not. All sexual activity between an adult and a child is abusive because it is nonconsensual, even in cases where the child appears to be a willing or an eager participant. This type of sexual activity violates the child’s life because children have neither the necessary experience nor the power that is required to give consent. Incest, on the other hand, refers to all sexual activity between family members whether abusive or non-abusive.

Incest survivors often experience problems with closeness and intimacy. Often sexual activity and sometimes non-sexual activity can produce feelings of anxiety, rage, anger or numbness. Survivors are often turned-off by sex, or they can be very promiscuous. Intimacy and close relationship with a parent, friend or even therapist, may evoke the feeling that sex will occur. Inappropriate desires for sex with people who hurt you are common among adult survivors of childhood incest, as is the expectation of being taken advantage of.

The feeling of absolute helplessness and hopelessness is often the most devastating factor in these young survivors of sexual abuse. When a child is violated by those deemed protectors, it destroys the belief that the world is safe, that things can be worked out, and that life is, indeed, manageable. For many survivors, the feeling of hopelessness and helplessness leads to unconsciously attempts to control everything and everyone in their immediate environment. Others may react by giving up control completely.

Finally, if you are a survivor or if you know someone who survived the trauma of incest or childhood sexual abuse; it is not too late to seek professional help and encourage them to do the same. Do not blame yourself. You have done no wrong; something bad was done to you, and you had no control nor the power to prevent it.

Dr. William Smith is a psychotherapist and personal consultant with over 30 years experience working with individuals and groups. He specializes in working with Adult Children of Alcoholic, Survivors of Incest, childhood sexual trauma, Rape survivors, and individuals experiencing symptoms of Depression, anxiety, and relationship concerns. Dr. Smith can be reached at insightconsultant.com or wspsych@msn.com

Work stress has become a major problem today. The nature of work is changing at whirlwind speed. Now more than ever before, job stress poses a threat to your health.

Although an estimated 50% of US employers are trying to help their employees with work stress management - doctors still estimate that 9 out of every 10 patient visits are directly related to financial or work stress.

A survey by a major US insurance company - Northwestern national Life - reported that:

- 40% of US workers feel their job is very or extremely stressful, and

- 26% report that they are very often burned out by their work.
The medical world is telling us that lack of adequate work stress management is at the root of most of our physical disease and disorders today — and is also the direct cause of the increasingly common problem of “early aging” and intimacy problems. Plus… stress is the known enemy of creativity and optimal mental functioning.

Since ultimately your mental health is ultimately your responsibility - managing your work stress ultimately falls on your shoulders. And there’s another other obvious reason it’s so important to manage your stress — to avoid the danger of burnout from excessive work stress, and potential loss of your job.

Ultimately the source of your work stress is how you respond to what’s happening at work. So it makes sense that the most obvious answer is to attack your stress at its source — your brain.

**Brainwave Training - The Immediate Stress Management Tool

Modern neuroscience has provided some amazing stress management tools that have not yet found their way into the workplace. One of the most powerful tools is brainwave training — a technique that immediately reaches into your brain and turns off “the stress switch.”

In the simplest possible terms — brainwave training causes your brain to mimic the brainwaves of high-achieving successful individuals who have learned to totally manage their stress.

The immediate benefits include instant stress reduction, increased IQ and mental clarity, better mental focus, and even a reduction of headaches and insomnia.

The long-term benefit is that your brain is actually trained to create these mental states and habits all on its own! Your brain learns to decrease the frequency and severity of stress — and even to overcome it altogether!

**How does this work in the brain?

Your brain is an electro-chemical organ. When a neuron (brain cell) is stimulated, it releases a tiny electrical charge. Since billions of your neurons are constantly firing electrically, an electrical wave is created. These waves are called “brainwaves.”

You experience a simple form of brainwave training when you watch a flickering fire, or listen to certain music.

What happens is that your neurons (brain cells) begin to fire “in-time” to the music or flickering flames — just like tapping your foot to music. Then after about 6 seconds, your brain starts to reproduce the rhythm internally all by itself.

**The web’s first mental workout ezone

The Quantum Brain Gym is a unique mental workout ezone as close as your computer. The web’s first complete brain gym — it has been packed with brain-building tools by leading pioneer brain/mind researcher and neuropsychologist Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler.

It contains virtually everything you need to manage your stress, and boost your mindpower, including:

• A complete 350-page library of mind-building articles
• 2-3 minute motivational messages to quickly boost your mental outlook and optimism
• Custom-engineered brainwave training audios designed to rapidly tame your stress, and supercharge your mental abilities,
• And much, much more! 

**The benefits are truly substantial
Here’s a sample of the benefits you’ll get from regular visits to the brain gym for your mental workouts:

• Instantly reduce and manage your stress,
• Increase your mental focus while you study or work,
• Boost your creativity,
• Sharpen your memory,
• Measurably increase your IQ,
• Get powerful morning or afternoon natural energy boosts,
• Learn to enter into deep meditative states,
• Rapid and long lasting personal change.
• And much, more! 

**What computer equipment do I need?

Because of the power of the state-of-the-art Quantum Brain Gym technologies, you do not need headphones, or even stereo speakers! The brainwave sessions are equally effective on a laptop speaker, or from across the room.

**Your brain is precious! Click the below link to view a detailed list of the Quantum Brain Gym contents. You can sign up on that page, and immediately claim all these brain-smart benefits for yourself!

By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, Brain/Mind Researcher
© 2004 All Rights Reserved

The author, Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, is a doctor of psychology, pioneer brain/mind researcher, and former advisor to the Pentagon, a Presidential Commission, and numerous top executives and executive teams.
The author of several books and hundreds of articles, she is also the co-founder of quantum-self.com, and the Creative Director of the Self Discovery Community. She can be reached at: drjill@quantum-self.com

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